ASEXUALITY - IS IT A MYTH?
Why do we find it so hard to understand asexuality? The fact that we live in a heteronormative and hyper sexualised society has led to many misconceptions about asexuality.
To start with, many don't believe it’s real. In fact, asexuality is often confused with celibacy or abstinence and considered a lifestyle choice. While asexual people experience no sexual attraction, that is not due to their beliefs about sex but a result of their orientation. Celibacy is a conscious choice to abstain from sexual activity, whereas asexuality is as intrinsic as any other sexual orientation.
So, can asexual people fall in love? Yes! Even though an asexual person might not feel sexually attracted by others, they might still seek a romantic relationship. Having an emotional connection with someone and wanting to be held or cuddled are other forms of intimacy that asexual people may desire.
For some asexual people, sex can be enjoyable too! In fact, some may experience arousal, but still lack any sexual attraction. This high libido may be caused by physiological reactions such as hormonal variations or random erections during the day. Others may masturbate but feel no desire for partner sex at all. Some asexual people may experience little or no sex drive.
It is estimated that asexual people make up only 1% of the population. Statistically, most people are unlikely to personally know someone who is asexual. This causes them to doubt the existence of this orientation and leads to the creation of numerous myths. As a result, asexuality tends to be underrepresented in the media and entertainment and it’s usually the object of ridicule towards people with little sexual life. That is why many asexual people don’t know that they are. The lack of visibility prevents them from realising that there is a name for what they are feeling. They have simply never considered that their lack of sexual attraction can be normal.
Yes, asexuality is real and like all sexual orientations, is absolutely normal!